Fellow larger families, how often do u and ur partner dtd?

[aussienic]

We average around 3-4 times a week.. Alot depends on DD and if she stays asleep long enough

plus Dh is just too tired during his working week (2 days then 2 nights then 4 days off)

We occassionally go through stages where it might be only once a week or when Dh is on holidays every night.. but average is 3-4 times a week..

I think it is possible even when you have a few children.. kids sleep at night and if we think DD is going to wake before we are ready for bed then we wait for the kids to go to bed and duck to bed for a quicky then get up and go to bed later

[Anila]

THANKYOU!! aussienic!!
We used to dtd on a regular basis, but i just dont know why we no longer do, and it makes ttc really really hard!

[aussienic]

I forgot to add.. when we were TTC we still did it the same amount of time.. but we aren't trying anymore I think (imo) it is important to maintain a seual relationship regardless of TTC or not I find those weeks that we do slacken off we get grumpy and snappy with each other.. I seem to have a higher sex drive then DH but he always says we still do it more then average so shhh and then laughs at me

[Anila]

LOL! I totaly agree with you there.
Hubby would like to know what social activities u have with ur children, hes going on about being at work all day, then taking the girls to dance and soccer training, basically i think hes saying he is too tired to dtd!

[aussienic]

Honestly we don't have any out of school activites as we go away alot so dont really have the time, plus I don't have my license which makes it hard as well.

When my Dh is home we go camping, fishing or on bike rides with the kids.. We have 2 in school and 2 at home.. next year we will have all 3 boys at school

Dh and I don't find the activites we do with the kids tiring if anything they fill us with more energy. I notice you live in a much larger city then I do so lots of driving and traffic would make you tired as it is draining. We live in a small town where it only takes you 10 mins to go anywhere really unless you want to go to bigger shops which is only 20 mins away lol..

I threaten my Dh with horny Goat weed (on his slack weeks)

[squidipa]

we have 5 kids and once they are all in bed we are to stuffed to dtd but i know we could eb making more time for that but its just not a priority at the mo

[maz]

Before my bum issues it was once a day..but it has varried since due to again my bum as it hurts me quiet abit the day after (must be the snoggles banging )
and when were TTC tank...3 times a day

[*Sparklez*]

for me its hard my DS sleeps in our bed and my DH works all different shifts but since being pregnant i cant even find the need to want it so if we do its often telling him to pull them down and hurry up (omgosh i feel sooo bad now)

The thing is like someone else said if i wasnt pregnant now all it takes is for him to look at me and i fall pregnant but i guessi have to stop being so slack lol..

[bubno.3]

Im jealous ... those of you who are saying 3-4 a week that would be bloody wonderful. I want it alot more than my DH and if we do it twice a month im lucky! Doesnt do much for the intimacy of a realtionship waiting for the other person to decide on when he wants it .