I have been watching this thread with interest as I am in the same position as Freya, my husband is also unsure if he will cope with the demands a 4th child will place on the family.

I got alot out of everyones answers, but Mbear it did stike a chord, like you I too would like to have some luxuries for my children, but I think the we could manage.

Reading from other posts, food well I'm feeding 3 boys already and we don't eat steak now. And at present swimming lessons are the only mandatory sport given we live around dams I think it is essential that they be confident around water.

So now for me it is back to trying to convince DH that we can do it, that I will manage (he is a farmer and not around much) and that we will love being a family of 6.

Good luck Freya hope you have success in convincing your DH also