how do you do it?

[Toomanytoomany]

i love this little boy like he is my own, and i think thats teh problem i am so protective of him..

i just wish she could see what she is missing out on as he is the most wonderful boy, i feel sorry for her aswell and feel sorry that eh isnt getting the real mother son relationship he deserves from his mother.

but on an up note he comes home on sunday and we have finished his bedroom its all decked out with everything roosters hope he loves it.

What was his reaction to his room?

Just to give you some encouragement - my dd2 was in such a bad way a few years ago. Her bio-dad has mucked her around all her life, and she's just had rejection after rejection. And she's taken her anger out on us - because we're there, and we're safe, and our blended family, no matter how loving, has reminded her that it isn't what she wanted, she wants her *dad* to love her, not necessarily her stepdad, although she does love him. (Does that make sense?)

Anyway, after some hellish years, absolute hell, she is seventeen, going back to school after a year off to get herself together, she is getting closer and closer to her step dad and really is a wonderful member of our family, a fabulous big sister and one of my best friends I said to someone at church tonight, "I don't know what I'd do without dd" and I meant it.

It's so worth it, to stick at it. One day they realise what you've done for them, and it all pays off.

[kawazuki]

he absolutely loved it couldnt believe i could do that lol..

i know its just so tough seeing him be dissapointed by his mum so much...

ill be here till i die, he has to try harder if he doesnt want my love lol