oh tan - I so understand your anger and frustration. the lioness within you just rears up doesn't it when someone, especially someone you would think would know better!, says hurtful careless things to your children. My ex MIL has said some horrendous things to my DD - including a statement about being fat. I could have throttled her. especially as DD isn't even remotely fat. After that particular comment we went through MONTHS of repairing her body image, and still have to do repair work on occasion.

I think you did the best thing ever for you daughter Tan, you were there for her, you held her while she cried, comforted her and rebuilt her dreams. You were a wonderful mummy....