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BUT you cant spread yourself so thin 24/7 you will go mad!
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Why the hell ar eyou spending so much time on your DD with her homework??? Cant she do it herself so you can look after the younger children?
Your house need's a bloody routine woman...get up sort one out. Sorry to be so hard but some tough loving is what you need.
get the kids in on stuff. get outside and go for a walk, go to a park and let the kids kick a footy or something. try doing some positive stuff for yourself!
Put C in a carrier if he wants ot be held, you can still do stuff that way. Man Ive got 2 special need's kids and I still do stuff. You are letting the situation get you down...get up or im coming up to drag you up!!!
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that exactly what df keeps telling me!!!! we need a routine, blah blah, would actualy be nice if he was consistant as well might help me stay up with the consistancey!
your 2 that share sound like my 2, if its a dietry problem and you have told the care lady, maby find somewere else to have him? if not is there higher up you could speak to, imagine if it were a severe alergy!
im just learning what keeps my mood up, so far its working, hope it keeps up, and you find your level to!
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Sorry Kitty I got nothing more for you....Im just trying to give something back to what yourve asked.
Yourve gotta be willing to help yourself and take onboard that yep...**** has hit the fan and now how am I going to fix it if I think it needs fixing. Stop looking for excuses, yourve asked for a bit of guidance and all we can do is try and give you what you asked for
Doesnt matter if DH is doing things differently..makes no difference..your kids will know the rules you have if you are consistant yourself.
What do I knowI must just be a hard arses ***** of a mother
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start sorting that crud sister and your gonna feel so much better.
can you escape out for even 10 mins by yourself, even if its just for a walk to get some head space for yourself???
Dot ask DH to look after the kids, tell him! YOu need to do something chick other wise your gonna fall in a big hole...and im telling ya its blood hard getting out
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Oh wow that is tuff love talking but c'mon we really cant pre judge the women we dont live in her house and we dont live with her husband or her children.... HOWEVER i do think these children soemtimes take some mums for granted and the mums forget that they dont have to do it ALL !!
Im in agreeance with the homework you cant spend all the time on one child as your are not bionic women ok and this child just may need an extension ?? As with the food stuff get some diet happening that the whole family can eat .....
Put the babys in prams cots etc etc and try to say NO to any other demands the kids put on you ...does that make sense ?
Dinner as i stated start it at 4 30 if need be and at least feed the younger two this they are done ok
Homework you will need to sort somesort of roster as you cant spend 6-7 hrs (what time does he go to bed?)
Bed time : again set bedtime times and stick to them
All this is is for you to get your time ok
Dont worry im over being pregnant and i cant even cope with a ds 10 and my 28mth old right this minute
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Ahh Kitty, it's not easy and you are being awfully hard on yourself and seemed to bearing the load for the whole household.
When the kids get up in the morning, do they make their own beds?
So, you have 3 in School? While they are at school, get a dinner ready during the day for the family.
When the kids come home, get them to do some of the chores, washing dishes whatever they can manage, even if it's just putting the cutlery away.
At 5pm let the little ones have their dinner including DS5 and get the older ones to help out while you get the bath ready and feed Chakotay (he could have had dinner with the little ones and only need a BF to get him to sleep). If you can get your little ones in bed by 7pm, job is half done. Get your DH to sort out DS9 and DS5. Even if the communication lines are down between you and your DH he still has to pull his wait with the kids.
That leaves you quite a bit of time to help DD12 with this project.
If this doesn't suit, let your DH take all the kids for an hour and try and work out something that is going to make things a little easier than they are.
Preparing ahead has always worked for me, and a strict routine.
No-one expects you to be a super mum..do they really exist LOL!
I suppose you could look at it this way, try and get the kids a routine that works around you rather than you have a routine that works around them.
Tonight is Friday...I loooove Friday! I don't cook, kids have a cold plate (takes 5mins to throw it on a plate). Meals can be easy and nutritional. I let the kids watch a movie till bed, no stories, teeth and bed. Friday is what I consider to be my night off.
Think of yourself, you are very important to your family, never doubt that.
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