Hello michami

It must be breaking your heart to be in a situation like that. Please let me know if this is out-of-line in anyway. Its sad to here that your partner is being that way to your eldest dd. Like you have mention, she has lost her real father at a very young age, and has only known your partner as her father. I think it would be a lot more different if she didn't live with you, like other family situations. But she lives with you guys and always has, and its very sad to know shes treated as not an equal by him. Especially that his been in her life as her other parent for 8 years.

I hope I haven't sounded nasty in anyway, if I have, I do apologies sincerely

DH has a son from a previous relationship, he is 11. DH and I have been together for 9 years and we have two daughters together. We have spoken about our will just recently. Both of our daughters will get more then DH son will, but his son will still get something, even that we don't have that much to give just right now. This would be different if his son lived with us. DH and I do believe that this is fair as if we both died, our daughters need to be taken care of as they will have lost both parents. DH son will still have his mother and stepfather.Most of our money etc would go to the carer of our daughters to help them raise them.

I hope you all work it out soon