I have four and like you my family just didn't feel complete when we only had three. My advice is to try to at least get your husband's support before you go ahead with number four. Having a large family keeps you busier and all things added up, the pregnancy could be a stressful time for you, so it is important to have his support. But then, granted your kids are more spread out than mine, so maybe they will be able to be a bit more helpful.
I think (from other people's stories) that if you keep bringing up the topic (not to the point where you are nagging) but just as an idea, your DH might become more used to the idea and accepting of it. Do you have any friends or relatives with newborns? Maybe if they brought their babies around to your home while your hubby was there and he could see how cute they were and how happy you were around them that might make him think differently too... or get together with people with larger families and talk about it with them - the pros and cons.. I think most people ONCE they have reached a larger sized family will see the pros over the cons and not have much bad stuff to say about it. I can't say anything bad about it even though obviously it's not perfect - it's perfect for us.
Anyway, just some ideas...
Good luck!
Thats what scares me about 4, the car and the house (and my age LOL) We are seriously tempted to have another one and DD#1 pointed out she doesn'twant to go anywhere with us anyway LOL Also she can drive in Nov this year and could be on her Ps the year after. But then does it look like I'm kicking her out of the family to fit someone else in?
Ooh, Thanks so much for all the advise so far,
~Monabap, I have had alot of newborns around me within the last year, And I love it, Maybe I do nag my husband a little too much, He knows how much I adore babies, and how much I'd love another, He has almost banned me from watching "saving babies" lol, I dont think I can get through the first 5 mins of that show without shedding a tear~
Im super clucky, and as I come from a family of 6 children, I know what it is like to be in a larger family.
Maybe I should not bring up the topic with him for a little while and then see...??
My 3 yr old often says to DH, 'daddy can I have a real baby for my birthday', It's so cute...
I guess only time will tell!
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