We Parent Differently

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I assume your partner has his kids part time? I find that anyone who isn't with kids full time is like that. It seems that they just want to forget rules etc and maybe just enjoy their time together?

But I would talk to your partner. Just see how he feels. Yes he parents differently, but the kids still need to learn respect for theirs & other peoples property, at the very least.

Good luck with the 4 year old though... I have one. They're stubborn, pig headed monsters who seem to get a kick out of seeing just how far they can push you... every minute, of every day... Mine hasn't drawn on the walls for a while, but seems to think threatening me with this sort of behaviour is the way to play it when in trouble :/

[MamaK]

Yeah, the kids share their time between Mum & Dad 50/50.

The 4 yr is one of a set of twins - the other 4 yr old is a piece of cake. He's so well mannered - most of the time.

I will have to talk to him I know - but he's stubborn and pig headed too and I don't want him to think I'm saying I'm better - because I know I'm not.

Some rules are variable with my DD - simply due to her Sensory Processing Disorder - and sometimes I just need to react in a different way than I would with any other child - he doesn't get this and I don't want it to seem as if I'm playing favourites. My DD has VERY strict rules about her behaviour and there are consequences when she doesn't follow through. His threats of consequences for his kids are always empty - makes me want to bop him on the nose!! (I don't condone violence!!!)