my kids are fairly spaced out too, which is also good at times, cos the pressure is off me lots of the time, n that the older kids can be diurected to be organised, and don't need me doing everything. People often think it is weird to go back after a gap, but you wouldn't have had another f you didn't want to do itall again would you. I wanted a boy as no.4 but got a girl and am very thankful as Jemma and Jessica are very close, and Jess is very boyish anywaylol It helped us to decide to stp having kids cos we ran out of room, lol, arron exended and we have 6 bedrooms, one I use as my sewing room, which is a necesssity and the kids each have their own room.plus there is a rumpus and study.

Lindi- funny you said that about your 2nd ds and the fluid on the brain, we had the same thing with our ds, and it all turned out to be nothing in the end, how old is your 2nd ds, mine is 7. I remember well the testing, amnio, US and the stress and praying things would be ok, and our boy was lucky, healthy and happy!