Hmmm I'm just not sure about my DS. Everyone says he is harder on him than the girls...

I did see the course and must say I was rather excited by it... Have already discussed it with DP and he likes the idea so we are going to start saving...

DSD - there is so much back story. He mother is the most manipulative woman I have ever met. It's actually quite sickening how manipulative she can be. My eldest step daughter came to live with us 3 years ago because she could no longer tolerate the games her mother plays which left DSD2 by herself.
DSD is almost a compulsive liar. She is constantly caught out but still does it. She even tried convincing DP I was physically hurting her while he was at work! I have NEVER and will never lay a hand on my kids! She wants to be treated like baby or a princess like the rest of family does because she is small and cute but I try to treat everyone equally (obviously failing ATM!) She thinks she is above everything and when she is punished she doesn't care.
I guess the best way to describe it is take a normal 13 yr olds behaviors and times it by at least 10. The lies, the attitudes, the manipulating. Everything.
She still deliberately hurts the younger 2, tries to tell strangers, people we just met and friends and family that I beat her! Never ever listens to me properly, if she listens at all. If DP and I argue over whatever, she will wait 15 mins and go to him in tears saying I said or did something horrible. It's gotten to the point I make sure there is someone around at all times so I have witness nothing happened.
DP and I have been together 7 years now and it's just slowly getting worse. She knows what buttons to push and I let her. Not healthy. It's not been any different from day 1. My anxiety peaks when it comes time for her to visit and I want to enjoy my family - not have anxiety...