I never wanted children...had DS1 and knew instantly that I wanted another. Had DS2 and knew I didnt want anymore (due to health reasons)...then after having 3 m/c I knew number 3 was needed and DD was born.....when she was 3 months old the urge pulled at my ovaries and tubes like a shopper to a 50% of sale. I fell pg with twins which I m/c at 8 weeks.....then said no more trying for 6 months but DS3 had different plans...I had my tubes removed after his birth...and at 3 months that urge hit again. I hated myself for getting 'done' but looking now...at my family and the dynamics.....4 is perfect for us ..it makes us complete.

Dont get me wrong...I would never knock back another baby....but I think when seeing a nb doesnt pull at you, doesnt make you jealous that its not yourse...you know its a clear sign that you need to concentrate on the babies you have rather then should have.