What made you decide to add to your family if you thought you had finished at #3??

[Ilithyia]

I think it all comes down to whether you can dismiss your yearning for another one or not. If its on your mind 24/7 and driving you crazy - you probably should have another one.. LOL

Having just been through this decision making myself - I wish you all the best. When I was pregnant with Eden I swore black and blue that she would be my last.

And then she was born.. and I desperately wanted another one!!!!

Good luck mate

So does that mean we can expect to hear some exciting news in the near future Mel?


AFM - I always knew I wanted 4. I grew up in a family of 3 kids and didn't really like it. Plus I don't do uneven numbers. 2 isnt enough so 4 it is!!!

I would also contimplate 6 if we were financially stable and my body could handle it!

[Feijoa Mum]

My number three was an awful sickly baby. He had really bad silent reflux and despite trying different medications nothing helped.
He didnt grow well, he cried all the time and was constantly stuck to me as he needed to be upright to get any sleep.
I was done!!! He put me off babies full stop mine or anyone elses for ages!
However fast forward 5 years and he started school I started to get that twinge, then the urge then the full on I need one now, master Scout was made.
Seeing there is such a huge gap between number 3 and 4 (one month off 6 years) we decided that Scout needed a playmate to grow up with and hello Miss Peppar.

Now although I do feel somewhat done again I know I could have more. I really hate to think that Peppar is the last and im not going to do any of these milestones with another baby but I seriously could not face another pregnancy. If someone else would have them for me I would have 10!

[jaspen]

Sara - if you don't mind me asking - what didn't you like about three and what position were you in the family??

[Ilithyia]

Sara - if you don't mind me asking - what didn't you like about three and what position were you in the family??

Not at all....

I was the eldest.

My Sister is 4 1/2 years younger than me and my Brother is 9 years younger.

I guess for me I felt like I was always the 1 who was left out. Our Dad is my step-father and although he is my Dad and always will, I felt he made me feel like the outcast when my Sister was born.

And again I don't really like uneven numbers at all. I do feel with Children and uneven numbers, that 1 will be left out.

These are all my own personal beliefs and I believe everyone has the right to make a decision that is right for them!

[jaspen]

Sara - thanks for that - I like to hear peoples opinion as I was an only child so my ability to perceive family dynamics for siblings is a bit thwarted especially from a childs perspective.

[Ilithyia]

Sara - thanks for that - I like to hear peoples opinion as I was an only child so my ability to perceive family dynamics for siblings is a bit thwarted especially from a childs perspective.

Glad to help

[Arimeh]

Jaspen - I'm one of 3 as well, and I hate it My DH is one of 3 and didn't really mind it. So I think its the individual personalities of kids than how many you have

[Arimeh]

So does that mean we can expect to hear some exciting news in the near future Mel?

You never know what the future holds

[Ilithyia]

Mmmm hmmmmm.......very true!


Isn't that soooo exciting! hehee

[jaspen]

completely OTT but likely the current saying under your username - it's very apt for my life at the moment.

[KimB]

I thought I was done at 3 as well lol. My now XH had the snip and everything so that was good but the marriage didn't last and I still thought 3 was ok until I met my current DF lol. He didn't have any children and he worked on the rest of the kids to harass me into having another one well we had the 4th one and she was a sickly baby too with silent reflux and colic but she was about 6 months old when we started trying for another one so she would have someone closer in age to play with. Hello number 5 and she is a blessing. Well here we are now about to start ttc number 6. I'm hoping that I won't feel the urge anymore after this next one lol.

Good luck with the decision making

[JellyBean]

I don't know if anyone has mentioned it yet but from the small bit of school resaerch that I've been doing - 4th + children are often free. However, I'm not sure if that is only valid when 4 or more children are in the enrolled in the same school at the same time, or if it just applies to the 4th child to be enrolled in the same school full stop. IYKWIM? Can any of you ladies confirm this for me?

X

Of course, this is not reason alone to have a 4th child - but it does make it more appealing if you are already seriously condidering it!

[jaspen]

JellyBean - I've always read it as 4 at the same school at the same time - haven't had to test it yet though so can't actually confirm it.