Are you a mother of more than 3?

[butterfly*kisses]

Thank you everyone for your replies....I appreciate your opinions!

Alana

[Fire Fly]

Wow, ive never been in this thread and just found the answers ive been looking for. All though not very positive ones.

You ladies say the change from 2 to 3 was hard. Do you ever say if we could do it all again we should of stuck with 2??. I have no doubt you love your kids to bits so im not going to judge you if you say yes 2 would of been ideal.

Reason i ask is as you can see we are TTC#3, but it took a long time for us to be comfortable with this idea. And our worries were that fact that our kids are great, they get on, they both sleep well and they are easy. One in each hand so to speak. I ofter look in the back of the car and think 'gee could i cope with one more'. How would we go at shopping, or just doing day to day stuff. Does the middle child get forgotten and the eldest has to fend for them selves.

Id like honest answers to as this is an on going discussion with us as to whether we are nuts for thinking of going again or should we be happy with what we have.

[butterfly*kisses]

Hi Firefly,

I can't lie to you and say that it wasn't hard when number 3 came along.

Before number 3, my husband and I would have equal duties - as most of the time we each had one child to look out for - but number 3 tips the balance, and we were out-numbered! DANGER DANGER!

But, something that we didn't expect was the love that number 3 received as the result of having 2 older siblings....and the joy that it generated amongst our 3 children.

Our first 2 were great babies and very easy - but number 3 was quite different, and threw many challenges in our direction.

I too, was very concerned about my 2nd baby being the 'middle child' - because she was my baby.......but she loves her little brother, and she gets along with him far better than her older brother! I don't think she is 'forgotten about' - and I make serious attempts to make sure it's not the case (in fact - I think she is a bit spoilt!).

Yes - I do expect my eldest to be fairly independent - but there's nothing wrong with that - and in fact, he loves the responsibility. We make special rewards for him being responsible in the household, and take him out to dinner (just him and me) or to the movies (just him and daddy).

Yes things changed, and we had to roll with the punches until it settled down - but our 3 are GREAT! And in hindsight, I just wish that we were a little better prepared for the changes - but I certainly wouldn't wish that we stopped at 2 - because we wouldn't have our always gorgeous/always cheeky/always unpredictable/always loveable number 3.

I think you just need to be prepared, and make sure that you and your partner are tight and ready for the next challenge.

Good luck with your decision,

Alana

[Fire Fly]

Thanks heaps Alana, you gave me all the answers i needed. I sort of knew deep down that number 3 would change things, and at times it would be difficult. But id assume that once that newborn stage is gone and their little personality comes out that it makes it all worth it.

I still have days of doubt but i have more days of longing for another. I feel as though we need one more, i feel as though our family will be so much more special with one more (not that its not special now). Im sure at times DH thinks im mad for wanting to add another because it may tip the apple cart, but in saying that he totally understands when he sees our kids interact or just when they do the silliest things and make us laugh. Our kids are so unique and both are very different. We love them both so much and im confident we could manage another.

Just have to see if nature agrees now. Thanks again.

[butterfly*kisses]

Thanks heaps Alana, you gave me all the answers i needed

I really glad that my experiences have helped you with your decision making.

Alana