It is so tough at that age, we really struggled and are still struggling. We did a big first birthday for each of our kids and we are now contemplating what to do for a second and third, coming up in the next few months.

DD - 3 in Feb - is starting to talk about her "friends" and so we've decided we are just inviting the kids that she is socialising with at the moment. The problem with that is that we have one friend who hasn't got kids... conveniently she is overseas at the moment so we might have been spared But even that - the kids we see regularly - is still 40+ adults and kids. Because they aren't old enough to be left without their parents.

DS - 2 in July - not sure. Think we might just do quite a small thing, at home maybe. Just family basically.

What are you celebrating? If it is a bit about making it through two years with your sanity in tact (as our first birthday celebrations were!!) then by all means invite everyone who has helped you in those two years. I also totally understand not wanting to offend people!

I went to a 3yo party in Nov that would have had 100 people. Easy. This family do a "big" party for each child every 3 years. They have 3 kids, so they organise one "big" party a year, for a different child. The other years, I'm not sure what she does - just the child's close friends I guess!