You're right; it is my problem and not hers.
There won't be anyone home when she goes home, so it's not about coming back to family, purely a financial choice for her.
She does know I'm disappointed, and has said she will think about it over this week, but I almost don't feel fussed about it anymore, just disappointed.
I think part of the reason it affected me the way it did was the way she told me, too. Like I didn't factor in at all, and she seemed almost surprised when I commented that it would impact my plans.
Ah well, it's only one night, just means I'll have to change my expectations.
Thanks all
As you said Lara, that was the biggest thing that stood out to me - you all made the decision to stay, but you weren't consulted when plans changed. I think if you were consulted, even if it turned out the same, you would have been disappointed but not angry y'know? If its a once off thing its not too bad, but it might be a good time to think back over the relationship and see if its a recurring problem. Like yourself, I have trouble diffusing anger, but at the same time I'll rarely tell anyone they've upset me, which can lead to serious problems later on, because I've never truly gotten over little things in the past.
I totally understand why you would be disappointed - I would be too!! Can you stay the night at her house and have a girls slumber party after going out instead? That way it would be like a little holiday for you but waaay cheaper!
Hmmm, I wouldn't be happy if someone changed my plans for me either. She could have let you know or at least first considered you becuase you made those plans together instead of, nope sorry doing something different kthnxbai.
BUT, crap happens and you might just have to file in under "poo" in your head and let it go cos you might not be able to change it AND it would suck if she didn't really want to be there yanno?
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