The invite could be being nice not excluding him, or the fact some men have no clue!
As long as he has sense not to go far or drink I wouldn't worry. I always had the issue cause ex's idea of popping out meant drinking. Not good then.
Maybe i am a little sour as this friend doesn't have children, doesn't want them and so he and his wife have stopped inviting us BOTH out as they know we would bring our DD and if we do get invited its always a 'no kids event'..
Plus on numerous occasions i have mentioned getting together for a BBQ at our place or dinner out and we always get "we will get back to you.." and 6 months passes and still no word
I'm also really sour about it because he was invited to go see a UFC match a few weeks ago. What annoyed me about it was they used to come here to watch it, we have a big tv with a good sound system so they could turn it up real loud drink beers and have fun. But since having DD its apparently 'better' to go to a sports club..... yes away from our annoying DD He came here once and DD was all over his friend, i found it adorable but clearly he didn't think so he hasnt been back since.
I think its one of the sad realities of parenthood in that to a large extent, your friendships tends to survive with like minded "childed" people and single or childless people can drift a little. Its somewhat sad, but that's certainly whar I found. If I was honest I would concede that pre kids I would prefer to socialise away from other peoples' kids the majority of the time too, and depending on the kids even more so now;-)
Personally the only time I had an issue with Dh going out with friends close to my due date was when I knew he was too far away to get home in time, or if he couldnt get home. Other than that, life went on as usual until I went into real labour and we had had the baby. But then after giving birth, I actually didnt mind Dh going out and having down time with friends.
It does sound like you have deeper issues with this friend. Ok so since having DD they have baulked at the idea of being around kids, but things do change once you've had kids. Some people dont feel comfortable being around them. My Dh was the same with other people's kids, we would cancel things so that he didnt have to interact with the kids, if people came over it was a kid free event. But that was because we werent in that space, and also kids freaked him out.
If you have an issue with them, then explain it to your DP. Its really the only solution.
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