I didn't have a shower for either of my girls, purely because I really only have one or two friends who live in town - everyone else lives a million miles away and it would have been waaayyyy too hard to get them all together - their social calendars are pretty packed!!
But I love being invited to showers, although I've only been to one (the other ones were out of town and we just couldn't make it, so I sent presents in the mail). It was a pretty small one, just her female relatives and me (as our men have been mates since high school and we were due just a few weeks apart), we all brought small gifts and just sat around the dinnertable all afternoon yarning about kids and eating cheesecake
I did hear of one friend being invited to a baby shower where the mum-to-be sent out her 'gift registry wishlist' with the invites - which sounds fine so that you don't get doubles of everything, but apparently there was not ONE single item on her wishlist that was under $150!! To me, that sounds a bit greedy, like you really do intend your baby shower to 'set you up' so you don't have to buy any big-ticket items... needless to say her guests weren't impressed and most just bought smaller gifts that were in their budget. But I don't have a problem buying a gift for a shower, I usually try to get something more for mum rather than bub, as I know I felt pretty ignored throughout my pregnancies... it was all, 'How's the baby?' 'Baby baby baby baby blah blah' and I was like, 'Wth am I, a cheese sandwich? Why doesn't anybody ask me how I'M feeling?!'.
To me, a baby shower is a chance for you to get together with the girls for an afternoon (or brunch, whatever ) and celebrate your impending motherhood. Gifts are optional, but obviously much appreciated
Glamourcide - with a name like that, I'm sure you're so much more than a cheese sandwich - you'd at least have a little pickle too
Thanks everyone for your thoughtful and helpful replies! It's good to know that if I do have one, people will probably be excited about coming, rather than offended!
This is where "Baby Shower" originated. It isn't about gifts or games it's about holding a positive Energy for the Mama and her baby. Letting her know she is "showered" with loving support during her birthing.
There are many rituals that can take place & there are things that can be said to the Mother. Sometimes the Mother is massaged, bracelets or necklaces are made for the mother - and always it's about connecting with Women.
It's about holding a positive Energy with the Women there and that united that Feminine energy will guide the baby's way...
Just a thought!
I have never been to a baby shower nor had one. But I have been to and had a Blessingway for each of my live babies....
) and celebrate your impending motherhood. Gifts are optional, but obviously much appreciated
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