I have had MG here a few times now. The kids get all the toys out of the toybox and they are all over the house and backyard. Now - I have NO problem with this, I actually like that they play with the stuff but when it comes time to leave everyone just gets up and leaves. No one puts anything away or even offers to. Whenever i'm at others places I ALWAYS make Miss J help put away some toys and offer to help with dishes or whatever. I was always taught that was good manners.
It doesn't just happen here either, it happens at others houses too.
Is it just me who does this? Am I weird for doing this?? It kinda annoys me that I end up having to clean up everything at the end.
I have a 6 month old who doesn't yet play with the toys that the others do - but I still help tidy up!! It's manners if you're at someone else's house!
Unless of course you guys have an agreement that the person who hosts does the tidying at the end - but if you had that agreement, then you wouldn't be posting here hey?
Maybe bring it up the next time you're at MG, but make it like an activity at the end for the kids to do?
at playgroup it's a given that everyone helps tidy up at the end. It's not at anyone's house so I guess it's a bit different, but i still think it's rude of them to just leave without even asking if there's something they can do. Kind of teaches their kids that it's ok to go to other people's houses and leave your mess for the host to clean up...
Yep, I'd start packing things away / cleaning, unless they said it was okay, at which point I would double check
I would expect the same in return, or at least an offer (even if you are going to say no, it's still nice to know someone is willing to help)
From the belief that you treat others as you wish to be treated
I ALWAYS offer and ALWAYS make my kids at least attempt to pick up after themselves. I won't leave someone's house in such a mess if my kids helped make the mess.
I go to MG, but at a hall, and it's expected that everyone helps out to pack away, kidlets included (if they're capable!). But if I go to someone's house with my kids and they make a mess, I always pack it up and help do dishes if necessary. Like you, I was taught that's just how it is! It's nice manners and a way to say thanks for your effort.
I've gotten to the point that it depends on where I am as to if I bother.
I've always been one to help out - we don't go to MG, but at family, etc. I do dishes, clear tables, tidy toys, etc. But when the people I help out don't bother, and leave me with a bomb of a household (we keep tidy over here) and a sink full of dishes, I stopped doing it when I went to their place.
It annoys me too because the people I'm talking about all know that I keep things tidy, yet they never even offer a hand. I have the same thing with bringing a plate. I never ever ask anyone to bring anything, but am always told what to bring, specifically, and it's usually an expensive dish too.
Do you help or at least offer???
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