Etiquette Question - You are invited to a 60th at a restaurant, do you expect to pay?

[Erin_25]

I would never expect to be "paid for" when invited to a restaraunt for a party unless stated otherwise or it was ****tail & i was expecting finger food.

[Nadine216]

I won't expect to pay for my food, but I would expect that the drinks would be on the house - does that make me weird

[Floweryfields]

Why don't they just write it in the invites that it's a pay for your meal thing?

[Fleur]

I wouldn't have any expectations... I would go prepared to pay, so as not to get caught out.

But I do think it's best to make it clear on the invites...I think linking the restaurant is a great idea, but maybe might not be enough for some people? I would put something along the lines of not needing to bring a gift as they will be paying for their meal (nicer wording perhaps).

Also, is there an option for people who don't want to eat to join in? If there is then I would make that clear too, so people don't decline the invitation due to money troubles IYKWIM.

[Phteven]

So how did the party go?
I hope you all enjoyed it.

[Waiting girl]

It's a great idea to put it on the invitation. This covers the etiquette of if people receive an invitation, in etiquette standards means the meal is paid for. If this is stated on the invitation then all the boxes are ticked. At the end of the day who pays is not important, I doubt any one will even bat an eyelid and they will be thrilled to be there to celebrate a remarkable feat 45 years!

Enjoy the awesome party!

[~Raven~]

We recently had my uncles 70th at a restaurant and it was pay for your own food but strictly no presents. Was a great day