I hear you Fiona ... my hairdresser of only two years just doesn't get it ... i don't want subtle old ladies colours ... i want a hairdo with more modern hints to it ... it's like when i explain what i want they don't have the colours i want or i get talk out of it with answers of "Oh, it's just going to fade and won't look good". I get a gut feeling i can't have the same cut or colours as a person younger than i, sounds so silly but feels so true !!

You don't owe the hairdresser any explanation ... they should just guess if they notice you missing that you weren't happy with something At the end of the day they aren't your friend if you know what i mean

Hope you are on to a hairdresser that gives you what you are happier with