Im not entirely sure BG. They know my predicament so thats why theyre going to try and make it a friday/saturday funeral so I dont have to choose. Its important to DH that Im there when he cant be. I think Ds1 would be fine, the other two not so much. I cant take one but not the others; but Ds2 has autism and Im not entirely sure how he would go being left with friends and Ds3 isnt even 3 and has never been away from me while at someone else's house iykwim?