I tend to help & put myself out there for multiple times until either my help is not needed or I have the heartbreaking & frustrating realisation that I'm putting in more time & energy to help this person than they are putting in to help themselves. That's when I walk away. Sometimes for good but sometimes I just have some space while I detach from the persons problems/issues & then let the friendship back into my life but with boundaries & less investment on my behalf.
I think it depends on what you're helping with and how the person responds. If, as you've said, the other person stops trying, then don't keep going yourself. It's up to them to do the most part - you're just helping, not doing the whole thing.
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