I drink occasionally but am just as happy with a non alcoholic drink, so generally go with that option. It took a long time for people to get that I wasn't being rude or anti social and my DH's family use to ask me 'what's wrong' all the time when I turned down a wine. After 10 years they have got use to the fact that I will still join in on the socialising it just I prefer to do it with a lemonade. Friends seem to accept this too. My family have always seen it that way, but my mum was the same and now drinking affects her diabetes so she just doesn't. Although she went out recently and felt like she was in high school with all the pressure to have a drink and in the end she left.