Pregnancy Annoucements and IVFers

[Rosey]

With all due respect Rosey, you don't know what you would do unless you've been in that situation.

The grief from IVF failure is horrible. It's not just another BFN. It is THE BFN. IVF is a last resort for many and for almost half of those who go through it, it never works.

I agree your miracle should be celebrated Bloom. But they also need to mourn their miracle that never came.

Congratulations on your pregnancy x

Your right I don't know the pain of IVF, I'm sorry if that was insensitive. It did take us years and I know I sent a couple of congratulatory texts in that time.

Good luck Bloom I hope you & your SIL can talk about things soon.

[Bloom]

Thanks for all your input. I guess the years have some what dampened the initial pain and fear and grief so it was good to be reminded of what they are going through.

Thank you too for all your congratulations. Sometimes it feels like this pregnancy is something to be ashamed of, to be spoken of in hushed tones as if I were heartless to get pregnant now.

Thanks for the reassurance that we broke the news in the right way as I was a bit worried that they may have been somehow offended by the manner of the telling.

Joeve and Miss Dee - yes! I know that sinking feeling of horror when you get a pg announcement in person. My first thoughts are "ok, happy face on, say congratulations and how long till I can get out of here" - it is like an out of body experience being happy on the outside and in a pit of despair inside.

I'm going to try and organise family lunch for the weekend and hope that SIL comes. Of course, I won't talk about the pregnancy really at all and hopefully with time they will accept it. I will respect their grieving process.

But, but, but, a tiny selfish bit of me still thinks that surely a text, even if not entirely sincere, wouldn't have been too hard for them...