RSVP for a child's party. How long does it take you?

[helle]

I usually reply ASAP. And I think that's a pretty good time for a saturday?

My SIL on the other hand likes to not RSVP at all.... and then either does or doesn't rock up *opens can of worms* XD

[Phteven]

Thanks for replying everyone. I just want it to be perfect for him so I'm kind of freaking about the no RSVP's because I always RSVP in a day or so if I can.
I don't really know any of the parents because I let him invite his friends and I've never even seen some of them because their kids arrive at school early and go to after school care.
Now i wish I knew the parents in his class better. He's such an awesome kid, he deserves better than a total social retard for a Mum

I'm blaming FB for people who don't RSVP. Maybe is not an acceptable reply unless you're 37+ weeks pregnant or on a transplant waiting list.

[sloane]

if i know the person well or see them often, i'll usually rsvp straight away but if don't know them so well, i may leave it till closer to the rsvp date because i'm usually in a rush & think 'i'll do that later' but always by the rsvp date. did you give them a cut off date for rsvps?

i don't think 10am saturday is necessarily a bad time (although i don't have school age children so dunno what their activities might be like?) but if DS had (for eg) his swimming, i'd probably skip it that week so he could go to a friend's party or would let you know that we might be a little late. it also leaves the afternoon free for people so if there was something they needed to get done, they can still do it!

and you're not a total social retard!

[briggsy's girl]

definitely not a social retard!

i tend to RSVP early for most things (just so i dont' forget) - having said that, there are some things i have left til the last minute to RSVP. and, as much as you hate the idea of Maybe as a response, i've done it! my cousins DD was having her first birthday, i had surgery coming up "sometime in the next couple of months" so i had to RSVP as a maybe. when it came to the week of the party, i'd had the surgery and simply wasn't up to making the trip to Melbourne, so i had to say no at the last minute. I sent DD with her Granma though.

those sort of circs are pretty rare though (or i'd hope they are!)

i think 10am is a great time - actually, i don't think any time is really "bad" (unless it's late at night or 8am or something!) - we always have DD's "events" (for want of a better word) in the mid afternoon to allow for those travelling (some family have a 2 hour trip, god parents and other family travel up to five hours) and because she has a nap at lunch time so is bright and fresh mid arvo. you have to schedule what works for your family - if that is the time that is most appropriate for you and yours, that's the time you schedule it. if people can make it, they will

[Astrolady]

Kameron handed out his invites 3 weeks ago, cause he wants a fancy dress party. We have had a RSVP from 1 child, apart from my usual group. So I am either expecting 1 child to bash a pinata or a pile of kids whose parents can't be bothered RSVPing. His party is this Saturday too, and because I don't know the parents I can't chase them up.

[~Trish~]

You are so NOT a social retard!

You sound like you are going through what I am! I've organised the first party for DS1 (I think is similar age to yours?) and DS2 combined with their school/kinder friends. I've only ever organised parties with our own friends and family before! I've also made it for a Saturday morning, but at 10:30am haha! It's a Macca's party so I don't have to have my own house trashed . We gave 12 invites out on Tuesday morning and have had two RSVPs so far. I'll just chase people up if I don't hear from them I guess...

Hope it works out well and lots of kids can come!!

[Mother Goose]

you're not a social retard!

Although most of the people on here have said they respond fairly quickly, it is only a snap shot of people. I honestly believe that the vast majority of people DON'T RSVP in a suitable time frame (if at all). Now I'm about to make a horrible generalization, but it seems that people are far too self absorbed these days to think about the work and planning that people have to do in order for their child to attend another child's birthday and so therefore couldn't be assed to take 15 seconds out of their day to exhibit the politeness required to actually notify another equally busy adult whether or not their child can attend the party! It drives me MENTAL! Sorry. But I really don't think it is that hard to demonstrate to your (their) child how to be a socially responsible and polite human being by informing someone whether or not you will attend something.

*demounts soap box*

Kat and Onyx, I hope both your boys have awesome parties.

MG