DP & i aren't married but DS has his surname. i don't have a problem with that & have been happy with our decision. it feels a bit weird when i make a dr's appt or similar & we have different surnames, but it comes up so rarely (for now) & it's more an inconvenience (if that) than anything else.

my dad had a bit of an average childhood & didn't grow up with his family or even in the same country as them. we don't have any relatives in australia & i'm an only child so growing up i didn't feel any sort of strong family connection to my surname, if that makes sense?

i feel such a strong bond with DS that i don't think his surname impacts it at all & i think it's nice for DP to have the connection.