Weddings - whats appropriate and whats not

[TeniBear]

My wedding last September, I didn't notice what others were wearing. I really thought I would, but I didn't! What got me though, was the photos. I "let" a friend's mum stay for the ceremony, and she just happened to sit right on the aisle - so every photo we have of the bridesmaids and me walking down, there she is in a horrid tracksuit, ratty hair, etc... Like I said, I didn't mind on the day, but I think now that she (or the photographer, who was my only regret for my wedding) could've made an effort to keep her out of the photos. She wasn't even meant to be there

The bride possibly didn't even notice, and maybe she won't mind at all, even after the photos? Maybe she's dressed like that at other people's weddings and they were getting their own back

I'm more peeved about my cousin looking like a prostitute at our nan's funeral than I am that she wore the exact same outfit to my wedding...

[The[cookie]Doctor]

Don't get me wrong I do think it is important to respect and honour the couple's wishes - but without being in the position of the attendees thay may have had trouble with outfits - let's say the larger lady for example it is really unfair to judge. I do agree that a minidress is inappropriate to wear to a wedding, but again if that is the closest to semi-formal outfit my friend had and could not afford anything else I would rather her wear that than not attend.

I guess this is a topic that will be independent to each person - but to me, I'll be glad to appreciate the company and forgo any style disasters.

[~Trish~]

I agree that you should dress respectfully at a wedding, and maybe these people think they have? Some people have different ideas of what is acceptable to others. It sounds like they made an effort to look nice anyway!

FWIW I have been to a "bogan" wedding (my uncle's) and it takes the cake for the worst dressed people LOL! One lady wore trackies and moccasins , but it was a very casual wedding and everyone was happy, including the bride and groom and that's all that mattered .

[~Kim~]

Well if the invite says semi-formal then I think you should make an effort. It doesn't say go out and spend a motza, it says wash your face and wear your Sunday clothes.
True, I doubt the bride noticed, but the couple getting married treated everyone to a nice 'event', is it so hard to scrub up a bit?
Saying that though I have witnessed defendents at court in thongs and stubbies/singlets so I guess image just isn't important to some.....

[*LittleMissSummer*]

I'm sorry if i offended anybody. My comment about the larger lady wasn't having a crack at her weight at all, im no size 6. But im sure she could have kept her boobs in her dress rather than having them spilling out thats all i was saying. I have a quite large chest myself, i have to go up a size in clothes to make room for them.

And yes i don't think the bride noticed at all, she was very happy. I cried during the vows and the exchange of rings, i was a blubbering mess.

Again im sorry if i offended anybody.

[TeniBear]

You've just inspired me to go look at my photos again, so thank you Though I looked at the photos I was talking about, and it gets worse... She's in a... a.... COLLINGWOOD TRACKSUIT! I'm so ashamed...

[Ahurani]

I agree, ver disrespectful. I think there is no place in weddings for jeans, caps tracksuits. Discusting! If anyone shows up at my wedding like that they can leave. I would find it so disrespectful to DP and I.