Dude - I say go with your DH - on BOTH dates.
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Don't feel bad at all hun. How i wish I could have a date with DP. It's amazing how a night with just the 2 of you can refresh the relationship and relax the soul.

I actually think it was rude your friend assumed she'd get them and was trying to tell you how to use them but that's just me.