thread: Is it wrong to blame odd statements/opinions on not being a parent?

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  1. #1
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    Feb 2006
    NSW Central Coast
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    I dont' think anyone can have any idea of what it's like to be a parent until you are a parent (that is a step parent/adoptive parent/foster parent....) a parent figure, I mean being a carer of children 24/7. You just can't get what it's like to be responsible for a little person, to make decisions for them, to look after them, to do what's best for them, and often to over look what it is that you want for yourself, full time.

  2. #2
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    Sep 2013
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    I know this is an old post but it hit a nerve and I had to respond.

    For some people, being childless is not a choice but a point of great agony. Rubbing such a person’s childlessness in their face (even unintentionally) will likely be taken with great offence. Telling an infertile person, for example, what experience they have missed out on in life is just plain cruel. My husband and I suffered from infertility for many years and there was nothing worse than being excluded from “parent’s conversations" because we had not had the privilege of being in that role ourselves.

    Just as people without children might not of stood in your shoes, you have certainly never stood in theirs. You absolutely have no more right to judge them for not having children than they have to judge your parenting.

    When someone without children says something that you think is naïve, just take a moment to reflect on how lucky you are to be a parent and “in-the-know”.
    Last edited by DizzyLizzie; November 15th, 2013 at 12:11 PM.