I dont' think anyone can have any idea of what it's like to be a parent until you are a parent (that is a step parent/adoptive parent/foster parent....) a parent figure, I mean being a carer of children 24/7. You just can't get what it's like to be responsible for a little person, to make decisions for them, to look after them, to do what's best for them, and often to over look what it is that you want for yourself, full time.