i wonder what the obsession is with trying to say that one is 'right' and the other is 'wrong'. i don't know why both can't be right - it depends on the individuals & their families.

and what about if you do both? my mum was a teacher who stayed home with me until i went to school, then she returned to work. i'm hoping to be in a position to do the same thing, although finances may dictate otherwise.