Firstly, big big to you hun, you have had a horrible time. Honestly, for me, I tried the counselling thing after resisting for too long and I did go back for several sessions where I was given loads of coping strategies etc etc. But if I am being truthful, I thought counselling was going to help some of the pain go away and I kept going back in the hope that I was going to have some amazing breakthrough and be able to deal with things a lot better. For me, it never happened and I found in the end, I was getting quite resentful that I had this stranger telling me how I should be viewing things and making changes within my own life when she had never walked in my shoes.
Do you have anyone irl that is/has gone through similar heartache to you? And BB is also a great place for it but the thing that helped me the most was immersing myself amongst like-minded people in a similar situation and talking/crying/b!tching as much as we needed to. Sure, some may see that as not being particularly conducive to the whole healing process but I found in doing this, whoever I was with at the time, really and truly did understand how it felt. I know that my clinic has information on an infertility support group - would you consider giving something like this a go if the idea of therapy isn't for you?
I really feel for you, it is a horrible, cruel journey. Take care of yourself and I hope you can get your forever baby XXX
Wow thank you for your responses. No I don't have anyone around me that has gone/going through infertility. I think an infertility support group might be a really good thing now. I might look into that at my clinic, thanks. It has got to the stage I don't talk about it with my close family much as it's also so upsetting for them too.
To add to everything, DH was diagnosed with testicular cancer this year so we've been going through that and radiation too. The clinic do not seem to think that is related to the infertility though.
to you hun, you have had a horrible time. Honestly, for me, I tried the counselling thing after resisting for too long and I did go back for several sessions where I was given loads of coping strategies etc etc. But if I am being truthful, I thought counselling was going to help some of the pain go away and I kept going back in the hope that I was going to have some amazing breakthrough and be able to deal with things a lot better. For me, it never happened and I found in the end, I was getting quite resentful that I had this stranger telling me how I should be viewing things and making changes within my own life when she had never walked in my shoes.
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