Hi everyone (again),

Is there anyone out there that is doing the whole DI thing, and either you or your husband is coping with an anxiety disorder?

My DH has been recently diagnosed with GAD (general anxiety disorder). When my IVF counsellor heard about this she leapt on it, hence treating our sessions more like marriage counselling than infertility treatment.

I thought I had got over her bad counselling but she has put in seeds of doubt about whether my DH is going to be able to cope with having a baby through DH. This has been compounded by our GP who is a very moralistic man and doesn't like the fact we are using DI, and my FS who was concerned that my husband has GAD.

This lead to a very bad fight last night after DH said off the cuff "well with our luck we probably won't have a baby anyway".

After many angry words, lots of crying and a very wise girlfriend pointing out that he was probably protecting himself just in case we go through all this and it doesn't work, things are getting back to normal. DH pointed out - who am I going to believe, people who have no experience in GAD, or his own counsellor that says he will be fine, and DH himself - who kept coming up to me after the fight was over telling me how much he wanted to have this child.

Can anyone tell me in this position how they trust that it will be ok, and how they cope? I am trying hard to believe but I am frightened as DH has told me he is ok in the past just to have a meltdown a few days later. I thought about seeing his counsellor just to hear from an objective person how to cope. The stupid IVF counsellor has really rattled me.