Thanks for your kind words Humphrey. You have completely voiced (tapped) what I am thinking.
I have PM'd the first telling him where I stand ie. I want an anonymous donor and he would not play a part in that child's life unless the child sought him out at 18. It sounds hard, it's not meant to. I could foresee all sorts of custodial issues.
I agree with the you on the second one too. It's all so new to me.
I'm sure in a few weeks I'll be an old hand at this!!!
I love your saying, I'm gunna try that.
Love
Sue