WOW - i'd be fuming at my brother if he said something like that! my family have been amazing with understanding - and what they don't understand, they ask. they shut down ANYONE that tries to be "funny" about it - in fact, even i get "the look" if i make a sarcastic comment sometimes

FWIW - starting late if you can get your appointments early in the morning is the best option. as we discussed on msn, sometimes the response your body has isn't predictable til you've done more than once cycle, so you don't want to take a week of leave (as an example) and find out you can't fit your IUI in that week for whatever reason... i had a flexible employer that allowed me to start late after BT's, or swap days (i was part time) to fit in with my treatments which helped heaps