Jules - The three women above me are some of the wisest girls I know - and they are all right.

I know how hard it is to ignore a ticking clock but I think that you have enough time on your side to try and have the best of both worlds - a bubba and a wonderful relationship. I think that talking to a counselor would be really great - either by yourself or as a couple - or both.

This whole IVF caper is AWFUL and the only way to survive it is to have a strong relationship with your partner.

Good luck.