Hi *Tam*
I completely understand how you feel. Given where I am in life now, I may not be the best person to give advice on relationships!! My ex and I certainly had our ups and downs with it.
So, with perfect, 20-20 hindsight, I'd probably say:
Don't forget to take the time to enjoy each other. Just like when you first met. Keen mentioned the other day she and DH were going on a date - perfect idea. You really do need to try to do those things.
Try to work as a team in your quest to have a child. Encourage and support each other.
Remember, a lot of men really do have trouble expressing feelings. A major part I think is that men are wired differently to women. When faced with a problem - they do all they can to fix it. TTC doesn't work that way. A lot of the time your DH probably just can't stand to see you upset knowing he is powerless to change things. He's upset too. No, I'm not making excuses for men - just able to view it more objectively these days.
Always remember - a woman is not defined by her ability to conceive. [-X It's so, so easy to obsess. So, so hard not to. I spent 11 years doing it.
My main piece of advice? Don’t let the baby chase take over.