LJ,
So sorry you and your DH are having such a hard time with this all. Does DH smoke? If so this is not good for sperm count. My FS told us about another couple he was treating that man smoked a packet a day, he found it impossible to give up but only had 3-5 a day for 3mths and his sperm count after that was fantastic, so if he smokes i suggest he gives up or cuts down drastically. I've also hear that diet, excersice and vitamins could be a help unless of course there is a medical reason for his low count. My DH also went thru the invasive sperm aspiration, and yes it is not pleasent for them but i reckon what we go thru is far worse! I know the fear you are feeling of age etc look at my age and still no children but we are not giving up just yet, after we decided that our mixture was not working and the advise of our FS we tried donor eggs, we tried donor sperm and now god bless we have 4 wonderful little donated embryos about to be transferred and hopefully this will be our miracle - who know but we have just got to try everything we can - and this is what my advise to you is - try everything you feel comfortable with -i know things seem a little bleek right now but there is other ways and more things to try. I wish you all the luck in the world on this journey and hope you get your BFP really soon.