RE: acupuncture - I just wanted to let you know that it is not painful at all, please don't let your DP miss out on potential benefits because he may have misconceptions about the treatment! Having acupuncture is what has kept me sane this last 8 or so months, with trying to write up a PhD thesis plus work plus have a seriously screwed up menstrual cycle. Anyway I just wanted to tell you that acupuncture is amazing stuff, it will help you relax and it is probably just what the two of you need after what you have been through. Hugs and all the best of luck