Anyone here 42 and over -and successful ??

[bettyboop]

i am going to show everyone that over 40 is not to old, i also lookafter other peoples children , they are 4 months and 8 months and a 3 year old, i really love children and i am not ready to stop yet.

[Jodie259]

Woo Hoo - you go girl !!! Them's fighting words!!!
You will be successful - I know you will be!!!

My husband said he had a dream the other night that I got pregnant every year - and we had heaps of kids!!! I have 'suffered' with both of my pregnancy (and I don't enjoy being pregnant) - so I told him that he was definately "dreamin'!!!" It's alright for him - he gets to do the easy part of conception!

Must admit though - he has put in a LOT of "daddy" hours recently since I've been so sick. It is so good to watch him and shaun together. It's like they are joined at the hip.

[mrsmac]

We should ask for an "older mums" section - like the 'younger mums' have!!!!

Especially as older mums suffer different problems/threats/predjudices - and it's nice to have some support and encouragement.

I agree Jodie, we often have a harder time with public opinion.

[blackduckies]

Hi everyone met some of you already I hope no-one minds if I jump in here. I guess you follow your heart, you have to do what is right for you. I never understand why people feel they have the right to try to tell you what you should do with your life. I've read the frog story and I hope I can pass this on to other people in my life, and I think I may work on the "Deafness" part myself. Good luck to you all. Pam.

[AustraJoey]

Hi All,
I had AP today and Margaret the AP keeps saying one more month and it'll happen etc and today I just burst into tears- how many more months will it take- I've been ttc for 3 years and 7 months already now with 4 m/c. I am sick of the whole thing!!

This is torture, I imagine myself being pg when I'm due to have AF and she's a few days late... and then get very low when she arrives.

We need our own section,I was on a thread before where women were getting pg very easily and BFP all round...not too good for the self esteem!
Jo

[satya]

I know what you mean Jo. I try not to read the pg announcement ones much as I read one recently that said I don't know how I am, he just looked at me. With 9.5 years TTC (only 1 year with DF) and my age going against me reading that is kind of hard to take.... not her fault of course, some ladies are just very fertile and don't realise how hard it is for others and how upsetting a comment like that can be to us.

[Lissie]

Hi Mrs Mac and Betty,
Seems there is alot of us and the over 40's keeps growing - welcome girls - good luck to both of you TTC and i hope you are successful sooner rather than later - never think we are too old it just seems to be other people out there - but we will not let there negative attitudes get us down - now i feel there is an army of us!

[Lissie]

Hey Jo,
I know how frustrating this all is - pls be kind to yourself - i also think we should have our own thread for the 0ver 40's as our issues are a little different from the young ones -not to say ours is anymore important its just a little different with age against you etc and all the negative comments we get. Satya is right it is very hard to read about all the preg happening for the younger ones and its fantastic for them - just wish i had a magic answer for you and the rest of us . How are you feeling today? Are you feeling a bit brighter or is that a stupid question? Thinking of you girls and sending you some positive vibes - hope it helps a little.

[AustraJoey]

Hi everyone-
We need our own section!!
I just ordered a book, which is a great positive site so hopefully we'll show lots of BFPs that stick

I feel better when I'm doing something as I feel so powerless over nature.
Jo

[bettyboop]

Another day gone, wow that book sounds like the book i am reading one at the moment called older mothers, conception,pregnancy and birth after 35 is interesting reading. Waiting a few more days till i test.

[AustraJoey]

Hi Bettyboop= I either have the book you are reading too or have read it as well, borrowed from the library.

Hopefully this one I just bought is helpful. BIG fat positive wished for you when you test!
Jo

[blackduckies]

Hi everyone, I have to say I'm afraid of everything at this point in time. I'm afraid of being preg because I worry I will lose the baby. I hate the waiting from ovualtion till AF arrives because I am so obsessed and according to my family I'm like the she devil herself., and I did'nt even notice until I got told. I afraid to hope I'm preg because the let down is so hard to take. I worry that I'm not making the most of my life, and my babies are growing so fast that I'm missing so much because I'm so preoccupied and stressed with hoping to be preg and then losing the baby. And last but not least I'm worried I won't know when to stop. When is enough, enough!!

[blackduckies]

Sorry girls my last post is so depressing, I hope I have'nt stood on anyones toes. I guess I just feel like this is the only place you can really say how you feel and other people are going to get it!! Next post will be more cheerful.

[Lissie]

Hi Pam,
I know what you mean. I try sooooo hard all the time to be positive and it gets really exhausting - my whole life is consumed by this and im starting to think i am wishing on a star - im starting to think this whole thing is a waste of time - but then theres this little voice in my head that says keep going. When do we know when to stop - good question i guess we will just know. If were up to the doctors it would have stopped ages ago but im not one to listen to statistics i do believe in miracles i just don't know whether im worthy of a miracle at times. I'm afraid of a life without children - even though i don't know what its like with them - im afraid to live childless - does that make sense and i don't know what im afraid of all i know is it scares me. Pam you are not being depressing this is just how we feel at times and sometimes you just need to get it out. We all have good and bad days but when you have been trying so long you start to have more bad days than good and its just so much work to keep positive - but what i have learnt from this whole process is that i am stronger than i thought.

[AustraJoey]

Hi everyone,
Pam- you sound JUST like me exactly- I'm relieved to know others feel this way as well. Lissie, I am also not ready to quit although at my darkest moments I think- what hope is there, 6 m/c and 3 yrs 7 months of trying and failing. However, I would still prefer hope over no hope and if I quit, I have no hope.
How do you do the information tag below your name? eg dates, ages etc
Jo

[Lissie]

Hi Jo,
Go to user profile and then into edit signature - good luck. I like pams Dh age " over the hill" wish i had thought of that one! One thing girls at least we still have our sense of humor, i guess you have to otherwise everything would look alittle bleek. My husband and i laugh about that if we do become parents how old we will be when they turn 21 etc Dh just hopes he makes their 18th b'day, my hubby will be 50 in november EEK!!! I married to an old man!!! when you are in your 40s it doesn't sound so bad but then 50 - oh well i love him to bits and thats all that matters. Gotta get ready for work now - work in the afternoons early evenings for a Chiropractor - at least it keeps my mind on other things for 5-7hours a day- i call it my sanity break.

[AustraJoey]

Hi Lissie, I'll try to find the user profile thingy.
50 is not old!! My cousin is 53 and looks and acts like a 30 year old, I don't consider anyone old until about 75 plus. I don't care what age I'll be when I have a baby my mum had us young but she always acted old so age is a figure only to me!
Jo

[AustraJoey]

Found the user profile, did a signature, here it is! Thanks, Lissie
Jo