im in the same boat as you....with my current partner we have been trying for 2+ yrs.
its not an easy road to go down, but you need to do what is right for you!! if you need time your family should respect that. i find it quite difficult to cope with as everyday i see or hear about someone i know thats become pg.
since our m/c no one in our families have asked us about having kids (except for my nana, dont get me started with that ) though my mum drops a hint every now and again and to make things worse our families dont know we are going to be doing ivf. i REALLY dont need that extra presure
my partner has a 5yr boy which he stays with us when my partner is back in town, it has taken my a good 3yrs to get use to him being around. though sometimes it gets hard to watch him and his dad play with each other, it just breaks my heart...thats what i want.
i have my good days and my bad days, i personaly stay at home more and really dont going shopping that much anymore because i dont need to be reminded. i do get drepressed lot!! it doesnt help that my husband works out of town and im home by myself. my husband has suggested that i go talk to someone about it because i do get really down.
moonflower - has councelling helped???
most of the time i put on a brave face on in most situtions but im falling apart on the inside
Possums - i hope you find the help you need and im glad your getting the support
Trying to.... I am so sorry it's so tough for you also...sending you a big hug, i do feel for you.
I have good and bad days too.
Today is a bad day...a bit of a 'falling apart on the inside' day. My pregnant friend just had another scan and i was talking to her about it, and of course felt the usual mix of joy for her, and pain for me. It knocked me more than I expected. It just reminded me of our scans, the heartbeats...and then the devastating one with no heartbeat.
I feel like crying, but am at work and have to hold it together.
We are seeing them tomorrow. Hopefully i'll be feeling better.
) though my mum drops a hint every now and again
and to make things worse our families dont know we are going to be doing ivf. i REALLY dont need that extra presure
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