julie- actually she has been through many IVF cycles herself (years ago though, when the process was not as good), trying to have child no 2 (she fell pregnant with her son while waiting for IVF)..she ended up not having success and decided to stop trying and settle with just the one, who is now at uni She is very understanding as a result, and really goes above and beyond for me at times, and has been a real support through all this, even when I had the natural pregnancy and miscarriage she was there for me, so that certainly has been a positive in all this