Just had to vent in here - I have posted most of this in my journal, but wanted to say it here to people that would understand!!!!

I had my nephews 1st birthday & Christian Dedication yesterday - Just at SIL & BIL's house... It was a big day!
SIL had invited most women from her mothers group, so along with the normal children in our family, there were 1yr old babies everywhere.
I do really well with babies & pregnant women - You can surround me with them & it doesn't bother me... even when the discussions are full on pregnacy & baby related... But had a tough moment yesterday.. (Not due to this, though)
The Christian dedication was done by DH's Aunty... She is a pastor in her local church.
Not sure what religion they are (I know its not one I'm too familiar with) - Because she has a big problem with IVF - Believes its up to God as to whether we are blessed with children.. and technology has no right to interfere.... HHHMMM... Yes, wait because it gets better!!!
She married into the family - And there are many members of his family that she is a little hostile with for various choices they have made (Living together before marriage, etc).
I was expecting it to be tough, but her speech hit me hard yesterday... She quoted a passage of the Bible relating to having children, and then gave her own beliefs of what it meant... Her interpretation was that Jesus blesses those who are deserved with children... and if you are not blessed with them, it comes down to 2 reasons.... 1. Because he doesn't believe you have what it takes to be a parent... (WTF???!!!!), or 2. You just haven't asked him the right way..!!!!! (Basically going on to say that Jesus believes that SIL & BIL are great paents, and so have been blessed with my nephew)
OMG, I almost lost it at that point, and made myself scarce inside until I had calmed down!!!

This is just a ridiculous thing to say anyway - I'm fairly certain I am not familiar with any section of the Bible that says this - I'm not overly religious, but Come ON!!!!!
A completely unnecessary addition to the ceremony - and incredibly insensitive by a stranger doing the service... Let alone DH's Aunty.. a family member who knows EXACTLY what we have been through TTC over the last 6yrs!!!

To top it off, afterwards I had a number of different people come up to me and say things along the lines of "Holly, did you hear that part in the service.... maybe you guys just aren't asking Jesus properly"...... AAAUUUUGGGHHH!!!!
Not only that - the 9year old I brought with me - Last time I checked, he was my son, so is he invisible to everyone there???!!!!
I ended up snapping at my MIL (only because she was about the 6th person to comment) - And said "You don't think after everything DH & I have been through over the last 6yrs, the thousands of $$$ we've spent, that he hasn't held me many times while we've both been heartbroken & crying and said Oh please God, give us a baby??!!!! - Is that not the right way to ask???!!! And does it matter how you ask the question???!!!"
As soon as I said it, she realised what she'd said, and just gave me a big hug & apologised for being insensitive - It took everything in me to not fall apart at that point and burst into tears.... But I held it together!!!
To make it worse, DH wasn't even there - He & his father had to work... But his brother was livid in my defence... anyone would have thought HE was my DH!!!!
Lucky DH (or his father) weren't there, because I know they for sure would have said something... and my poor little nephews day would have been ruined!

Sorry for the big rant & rave, but could not believe this yesterday, and needed DESPERATELY to get this off my chest!!

Love Holly
xxx