Oh My God (who is evidently not the same one that DH's Aunty beleives in),And I thought we were living in the 21st century. You poor girl, and what amazing self-control you have. I'm afraid I wouldn't have been able to help myself, I'd have interrupted the service with, "Does that include child abusers and crack addicts? " when she said the bit about God giving 'deserving' people children. Seriously, the woman is dangerous and shouldn't be aloud to speak in public with opinions like that!
Sienna
Arrrrrrrr, people like that make me so mad. So do they believe that if someone has, say, kidney failure, that that's gods way of saying you aren't deserving enough to live? Arrrrrr. And to know exactly what you have been going through. It wouldn't taken a lot of strength not to go up there and gouge her eyes out.
Holly, big *hugs* for you!
I would have been livid also, just fuming. I've heard some wild things as well, especially from people who claim that they get i all from the bible, so I know EXACTLY how upsetting it would have been.
You are definately deserving to be a mummy, and it will happen eventually!
Oh Holly, that's just awful! I'm not surprised you're upset. Children are a blessing, but you already know that as you have a little boy! But as for what she said...!!
I wonder how she reconciles that ppl who live together before marriage have children? Or someone who is single has a child? Not to mention all those who abuse their children..!
I take it she wouldn't have dedicated our DD... We had her christened at our local Anglican church, and she was conceived and born outside of wedlock (still haven't gotten around to it). There was no problem with our church though, and you would think we have the same God... (although our minister would dearly love to marry us soon!).
I would have assumed the principle of loving your neighbour and recognising God's compassion for those in difficult circumstances would kind of override an interpretation that you just don't know how to pray for a baby properly or you don't deserve one. Stupid woman.
I agree, God would have cringed, to say the least. What on Earth could have motivated her to say such a thing? Would she like to be treated in such a judgemental manner? I can think of more examples in the bible condemning HER behaviour than women enduring IVF!!! "Love thy neighbour as yourself" springs to mind...
If you have the strength I would write her a letter. She can't continue going around citing such nonsense! I wouldn't try to clarify biblical statements as they are notoriously able to be taken out of context. I would simply reveal your pain. If she was any kind of Christian she would be terribly upset to know that she could have hurt you so much. You might find that putting your anguish into words is healing too. Maybe just something to consider. I agree, imagine how many other people in her audience could be suffering in silence. She needs to be made accountable. Just a suggestion... just a way that you could turn a terrible negative into a postive.
Oh and for the record I believe that God has absolutely nothing to do with whether you conceive or not. However i also believe that life is a bit like a spiritual bootcamp... situations such as these can either strengthen your character or make you weak and bitter. Be strong
ETA: Jennifer: you read my mind!!! Just saw your post... posted at the same time LOL
Holly,
This started out as a story that made me mad but in the end it's made me realise that there are so many people who don't feel like that at all. And we are the ones who are going to be bringing up the next generation of new and more tolerant and open minded kiddies...
So, yay for all of us!!! In the future let's hope no-one has to listen to what you were forced to listen to.
Jo
I wonder whether if she was struck with a severe illness or serious injury whether she would decline advanced medical care on the grounds that if she couldnt get better without it then a) she clearly just didnt have what it takes to get better and didnt DESERVE to get better or b) that she just hadnt asked Jesus the right way if she could please get better...
Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry you had to be subjected to that, that is just awful behaviour no matter how you look at it.
It astounds me that someone with such an obvious lack of compassion can in the next breath call themselves a Christian.
I hope you get your much wanted, and much deserved baby soon :hugs:
Holly,
I can't beleive anyone would say that to you, that is simply rude. I am very proud of you for keeping it together so your nephew had a great day. I totally agree with leasha i probablly would have gone up there and tackled her hahahaha. Well done and don't let her comments get you down, you do what you have to do and don't worry about what a silly old bird has to say about it
I have only just read your post and cannot believe that in the 21st century people still think like that! Relative or not, you need to distance yourself physically and mentally from this person in the future - you do not need narrow minded, hypocritical, nasty people in your life, regardless of their motivations, intentions or explanations. Life is too short to have those people around. I am sure many other people at your nephew's celebration will be thinking the same thing. People like her just make us stronger because that is who we are, without hiding behind any rubbish from the bible! Well done on holding it together and remember these sort of people want a reaction - good on you for not giving it to her! You are an amazing lady and an inspiration to many of us here at BB!!
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