None of us NEED to be a mother. But that biological urge is there for a reason. If it weren't there, where would the human race be?

Kuraiza, it comes across as an immense judgement on those who have been through or are going through IVF. We don't NEED to be parents, so why the hell do we bother? We bother for the same reason that most people have children.

There are a number of us that are completely ruled out from being able to adopt before we even start. Does this mean we also shouldn't do IVF? Does the fact that I suffer from arthritis and anxiety mean I'm less fit to be a mother than the drug addict who sleeps around but is blessed with the ability to conceive naturally? By the time we wait the years and years that are needed for approval, we'll be too old anyway.

My history and heritage means that intercountry adoption is not for us. I won't go into why that is, as it could easily come across as a judgement on those who pursue that path, and that's something I certainly do not want to do. We sponsor a child in India - but it's simply not enough to satisfy that biological urge to have my own child.

What you have said is as insulting to those of us doing IVF as it would be for us to tell you that you have no need of being a mother so you should give up your own child for adoption. There's no way in hell any of us would dream of doing that, but perhaps that can help you understand why your comments are so hurtful to those on the other side of the fence.

BW