: IVF in healthy couples for the sole purpose of twins - do you find it insulting?

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  • I need assisted conception and DO find it insulting

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  1. #1
    TxMissAmanda Guest

    Red face

    The opposition is that they could be consuming resources that are needed by women with a genuine need for IVF.
    How could they be "consuming resources"?This is mind boggling.How do you know that they can have children?I have not seen their medical record.Has anyone else here?Besides all that they are NOT "consuming resources that are needed by women with a genuine need for IVF".The are paying for it with their own money.They may or may not be using their own sperm and egg.If not they paid for what they used.As far as the doctors and staff thats their job.Thats what they do.Its not any diffrent than you getting it.Who cares if they are stars.They are still human.Does that mean that NONE of us should be using IVF?If they are "bad" for having IVF so are the rest of us.Its their choice.I'm happy for them.They have two healthy babies.Good for them.

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    Registered User

    Sep 2007
    Brisbane
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    How could they be "consuming resources"?This is mind boggling.How do you know that they can have children?I have not seen their medical record.Has anyone else here?Besides all that they are NOT "consuming resources that are needed by women with a genuine need for IVF".The are paying for it with their own money.They may or may not be using their own sperm and egg.If not they paid for what they used.As far as the doctors and staff thats their job.Thats what they do.Its not any diffrent than you getting it.Who cares if they are stars.They are still human.Does that mean that NONE of us should be using IVF?If they are "bad" for having IVF so are the rest of us.Its their choice.I'm happy for them.They have two healthy babies.Good for them.
    There is only a limited number of clinics and doctors, the waiting lists are huge! It doesn't matter that they pay cash, if they take the spot of a woman in genuine need, it is wrong.

    The original question about about fertile couples using IVF for the purpose of getting twins, please stick to the question. Your response was probably offensive to many who have struggled through the IVF process.

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Dec 2007
    349

    Anyway I wonder if the journalist did her story about it? Probably not or we would have heard..

  4. #4
    BellyBelly Member

    Nov 2004
    VIC
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    As a long term IVF vetran, i seriously do not find that there are 'limited
    places for IVF. Sure when you first start, you might have to wait a couple of months for an appointment, but once you first get started, I have never had to wait to start a cycle due to limited resources. I have been doing IVF from 2001 to 2007!

    I understand that in country or isolated areas, resources may be limited, but in the big clinics in the cities, there is no'limited places'.

    Friends i know and family are embarking on IVF recently. They have to wait until november for an appointment- just like you have to wait for most specialists, but once they see the doc and get it moving, there is no delay!!!

    So lets get rid on the misconception that there are limited places. A person is not going to be denied IVF because there is not enough spaces!!!! It just doesnt happen!

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Dec 2006
    In my own private paradise
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    I understand that in country or isolated areas, resources may be limited, but in the big clinics in the cities, there is no'limited places'.



    So lets get rid on the misconception that there are limited places. A person is not going to be denied IVF because there is not enough spaces!!!! It just doesnt happen!

    Geography plays a huge part in this Odette. i for one do NOT live in the city, so for me, and for every other person who is restricted to using IVF when the regional clinics are available, there ARE limited places. anyone who required PGD has to wait until a space is available too. so it might be something of a "misconception" in the cities, but you have to get an appointment to get started - if you can't get an appointment for several months, than there ARE limits placed on your ability to start IVF.

    Amanda - this is predominantly an AUSTRALIAN forum. in australia, it's not as simple as user pays, user gets. there ARE restrictions on accessing IVF. and i'm going to harp on this point as it seems to have been missed - this is not about BRAD and ANGELINA - the bulk of us don't care what they did. the question was simply asked as to how we feel if ANYONE were to use IVF just to have twins. i, and most like me, couldnt' give two hoots about brad and angelina and what their medical status is, whether or not they needed IVF. the question was not related to them directly.

  6. #6
    Registered User

    Jul 2008
    Adelaide
    54

    Can I just say I am over this post?!! Everyone is going to have a different opinion and those opinions aren't going to change the fact that people with money can buy their way into all sorts of things - IVF amongst them (though why they would want if they don't need to I have no idea!).

  7. #7
    BellyBelly Life Subscriber
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    Sep 2004
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    Okay, this thread has had a heap of interesting, valid points put forward as to why someone would feel upset or insulted by a fertile couple wanting IVF for the SOLE PURPOSE of having twins, so this is just re-hashing that issue for the sake of it. And we've had numerous mod posts reminding people to stick to the topic and to remind everyone that when posting, to be mindful that REAL people with real fertility issues are a part of the thread.

    But it is now obvious that there have been posters who have not only not bothered to read the rest of the thread, but who also do not realise that BellyBelly is a very strictly moderated forum which will not tolerate anyone ignoring repeated moderator warnings.

    As a result, and because we do believe this topic has been discussed to death, we've decided to close this thread. If you have any issues with that, please contact me directly.
    Last edited by sushee; August 24th, 2008 at 09:05 PM.

  8. #8
    TxMissAmanda Guest

    Unhappy

    There is only a limited number of clinics and doctors, the waiting lists are huge! It doesn't matter that they pay cash, if they take the spot of a woman in genuine need, it is wrong.

    The original question about about fertile couples using IVF for the purpose of getting twins, please stick to the question. Your response was probably offensive to many who have struggled through the IVF process.
    I am sorry.Where I live there are many many fertility doctors and offices.Here there is no wait.I'm shure a woman also wanting the treatment will be able to get a appointment.
    I see no reason why it would matter if a couple had IVF to increase the chances of having twins.That is betewwn the doctor and the couple.God bless them for being able to have children (with or without IVF).I will soon be going threw IVF.If it worked for others maybe it will work for me too.I (like most) dont like pain.I dont know why anyone would want to go threw pain if there is no reason to.