I know hun, its hard to deal with any insensitive comments when you feel fragile, but remember to put on your thick shell when seeing her, and also you are allowed to ask her some direct questions that you normally wouldn't ask your western doctors either. Like how long does she think she can fix you to get back to her.... Best of luck hun.
Just putting in my 2 cents worth. I feel the whole reason for seeing an alternative medical practitioner during IVF is improve your wellbeing whilst having an incredibly intrusive medical procedure. I have had no issue with dropping like a hot potoato a practioner who I thought has a lousy bedside manner any more than dropping a Gyno or GP whose manner was also poor. I know sometimes we have to be told things we dont want to hear - but thats totally different to being annihilated emotionally during a difficult time (and a good practioner should be sensitive to this as are good doctors). During very emotional times its also difficult to be proactive in your choices and to stand up for yourself.
Possums - if on reflection of your visit, you are honestly in the belief that this person can help, then you have made the right choice to persist. If you feel otherwise or your doubt continues - there are plenty of practioners from whom you can seek a second opinion!
I agree with Buggirl, someone with a bad bedside manner (cultural reasons or not) can only add to your stress during something as emotionally intensive as IVF. I have had girlfriends pay big dollars to go to the best OB in Sydney, but leave his office upset and sometimes in tears because of his abrupt bedside manner. To me it's not worth it.
Both myself and my husband have been going to a Chinese Herbalist/Acupuncturist for 12 months now and it has made a big difference to us both. He has a great manner. We have just completed our first IVF stim cycle - with age against us and my history of endometriosis. I got 16 eggs and 3 made it to Blastocyst. I'm confident that I would not have done so well without all of the treatment.
Good luck with your acu Possums, but do consider removing anything from your life that adds extra stress to you during an IVF cycle. You want to be in the best shape possible physically and emotionally to give it your best shot
Thanks Buggirl and mindhugs...I do agree with your point of view. I don't have much choice in my town, so I will keep going for a while, and if its too upsetting, give her up.
I am seeing her again today, so I will see how I go...I feel a bit less fragile this week, and perhaps I have braced myself more for her now!...
She will probably tell me 'no sexy time', but I have just ovulated and we DTD...and I plan on telling her (with extra courage after reading your responses!) that we do intend to keep trying for a baby, so she needs to work with me on that approach!
I think that your approach to her today is a good one. Despite her telling you what she thinks on that matter, she needs to respect your decision to keep trying.
Let us know how you get on.
I'm on my second acupuncturist - the first lady had 20 odd years experience in infertility but she was a dragon. Didn't make eye contact and lectured me on my diet (which is very very healthy!!!!) so I ditched her and have found the most amazing woman. I guess it's trial and error hey?
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Best of luck hun.
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