I agree with Buggirl, someone with a bad bedside manner (cultural reasons or not) can only add to your stress during something as emotionally intensive as IVF. I have had girlfriends pay big dollars to go to the best OB in Sydney, but leave his office upset and sometimes in tears because of his abrupt bedside manner. To me it's not worth it.
Both myself and my husband have been going to a Chinese Herbalist/Acupuncturist for 12 months now and it has made a big difference to us both. He has a great manner. We have just completed our first IVF stim cycle - with age against us and my history of endometriosis. I got 16 eggs and 3 made it to Blastocyst. I'm confident that I would not have done so well without all of the treatment.
Good luck with your acu Possums, but do consider removing anything from your life that adds extra stress to you during an IVF cycle. You want to be in the best shape possible physically and emotionally to give it your best shot
Thanks Buggirl and mindhugs...I do agree with your point of view. I don't have much choice in my town, so I will keep going for a while, and if its too upsetting, give her up.
I am seeing her again today, so I will see how I go...I feel a bit less fragile this week, and perhaps I have braced myself more for her now!...
She will probably tell me 'no sexy time', but I have just ovulated and we DTD...and I plan on telling her (with extra courage after reading your responses!) that we do intend to keep trying for a baby, so she needs to work with me on that approach!
I think that your approach to her today is a good one. Despite her telling you what she thinks on that matter, she needs to respect your decision to keep trying.
Let us know how you get on.
I'm on my second acupuncturist - the first lady had 20 odd years experience in infertility but she was a dragon. Didn't make eye contact and lectured me on my diet (which is very very healthy!!!!) so I ditched her and have found the most amazing woman. I guess it's trial and error hey?
Sue- thats good you have found the right person for you now! I think it is trial and error, but like I said, in a regional area, sometimes there arent many choices unfortunately.
I do also see another guy who does chiropractic, with added acupuncture/energy healing sort of all rolled in, and he is great, a very sensitive approach.
anyway, saw my chinese lady today, and she wasnt quite so abrupt (or maybe I was just more ready) and this week my pulses were stronger than they have been and I have graduated to acupuncture (the other visits she simply said my body was not yet ready)...so I must be improving I also have my usual bundle of chinese medicine to take "to build up my blood supply so I can support a baby for more than just weeks".
Here's hoping it all does the trick, combined with the western medical approach!
I too have "bad blood flow" and we are working on that. I can now feel every single needle when it goes in and then when it's in. It's amazing. Apparently my chi is flowing better (whatever that means hehe.
I'm really hoping it does the trick for me too. I have lots of confidence in it.
If it's any consulation, I had a similar experience with my accupuncturist repeatedly telling me that the reason I'm not getting pregnant is because my body "isn't strong enough" and that I'm "not ready". It grated on my nerves, as I also thought it was a pretty negative thing to say. I eventually stopped going.
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I also have my usual bundle of chinese medicine to take "to build up my blood supply so I can support a baby for more than just weeks".
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