Julie- I am really sorry that you acupuncturist is so insensitive and lacking in bedside manner. It is not what you need right now, and as you know,mine has also left me feeling very upset. You are fragile after a miscarriage, especially when it's not your first loss. The grief and other feelings simply compound (at least thats been my experience).
So my advice to you wouldbe to stay away from her at least until you feel a bit stronger. In the meantime you might find someone else. If not, return to this lady and take the good from her, while letting the other stuff wash off. You need to be strong enough to do that though. Thinking of you and hope things feel a bit easier for you soon.