As if you didn't have enough to deal with right now!
It sounds like you and your husband might need to take a little time out to talk some things through. Perhaps you're not really on the same page with this, and I think when you're pouring your heart and soul into something that should be done as a partnership, then it's important that you understand each other.
Sometimes it's hard for the partner to understand, because they aren't the ones really doing anything. They can feel left our, powerless and useless. And sometimes they don't really believe that it's necessary. My husband still insists that there's nothing wrong with his sperm.
I can see this is really important to you and I hope that you guys figure this out and make it happen soon. All the best
My DH was very similar in the beginning. He kept saying "if it happens, it happens" and "relax". If I had a dollar for every time I heard these phrases!! Has your DH been with you at the appointments? Maybe your FS could give you some proof of your ovarian reserve etc that you could show your DH. It is very difficult to get them to understand, they just never do and probably never will unfortunately.
I hope he realises the agony of LTTC and it's affect on you sooner rather than later
Oh Sarah, huge hugs darling I have your DH's twin here My OH never initiates conversations about TTC, it's always me. Wen we start new IVF cycles he just disappears emotionally and he doesn't give me support. He recently told me that he's always scared something will go wrong (his ex wife had a m/c at 17 weeks and we've lost our son at 21 weeks) so I guess I can understand his fears. But I wish he could be more supportive and at least show SOME excitement in our TTC journey. I always thought that maybe he didn't show much excitement when we first got pg and then again later, because he's already got 3 kids from a previous r'ship, but he told me he was like this with all his kids, he was always scared to begin with but fell in love with the kids once they were born, and he's right, he is a really hands on dad with our DS. I hope your DH shows you more support hun, you deserve it. And I hope with everything you've been through, you'll get your bubba very soon xxx
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My OH never initiates conversations about TTC, it's always me. Wen we start new IVF cycles he just disappears emotionally and he doesn't give me support. He recently told me that he's always scared something will go wrong (his ex wife had a m/c at 17 weeks and we've lost our son at 21 weeks) so I guess I can understand his fears. But I wish he could be more supportive and at least show SOME excitement in our TTC journey. I always thought that maybe he didn't show much excitement when we first got pg and then again later, because he's already got 3 kids from a previous r'ship, but he told me he was like this with all his kids, he was always scared to begin with but fell in love with the kids once they were born, and he's right, he is a really hands on dad with our DS. I hope your DH shows you more support hun, you deserve it. And I hope with everything you've been through, you'll get your bubba very soon xxx
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